I was in exactly your situation, brother. EXACTLY your situation. Everything that you wrote.
I kept assuming things would happen naturally, and they didn't. Opportunities for sex happened, and I turned them down. I was too nervous, like you. Too scared.
'It doesn't feel right', I told myself, 'if it was meant to be I'd feel it, I would know'.
Well, news flash Anon, it never felt right. I left uni without a single fuck. Plenty of girls made it clear that they wanted me to make a move, and that's all I had to do at the time, make a move. It didn't have to perfect, or with maximum charisma, it could have been clumsy, I could have just said 'hi', anything, I could have done anything, but I chose not to and paid the price.
The truth, the redpill, is that the anxiety you feel about the approach IS the natural feeling. At your age there will be more girls than you think who feel the exact same way. Who want to fuck but lack the confidence to make a move. Being a girl also means that they have the perceived social disadvantage of coming across as a slut if they make the first move, which terrifies them.
GIRLS DON'T MAKE THE FIRST MOVE; 9 TIMES OUT OF 10. They instead provide YOU with opportunities to make the move, you have to recognise these opportunities and just go for it.
Hear me Anon, and hear me very well, from a guy who didn't start properly fucking til he was 23. You HAVE to have these awkward, clumsy, not-perfect sexual experiences NOW when it's normal, or you'll just have to have them five or more years down the line instead. Don't be like me.>I feel like everyone else at uni is out having sex easily which makes sense since it’s first year uni but it makes me sad that it’s not happening to me. Massive FOMO about this.
40% of the people around you are having sex literally all the time. 60% are having much less than they are letting on/ pretend to.
Good luck dude.