Sounds like you're doing what I did with my last gf.
I didn't go for what I wanted, but for what was easier, and it was real fucking easy, like, really, even with her parents.
I didn't have to try anything.
You need to find something hard to get and get it to feel rewarded.
And, reiterating, you need to feel happy about yourself when you're getting in a relationship.
That's the key to getting past the initial happiness.