Don't know if you're still around, anon, but I wanted to respond to you. >I don't know if you are in a less vulnerable state maybe it's simply a different kind of vulnerable. One that isn't being shied away from or doesn't need to be compensated for. Not a vulnerability that comes from hurt or anger, but one that is the result of something more positive following an initial hurt.
I think this raises a good question. If someone "overcomes" their vulnerability, does the vulnerability go away, or is it still there and they no longer fear or avoid it? I'm not sure.
In my case, I still have my vulnerability. But due to positive experiences, and growing as a person, I don't really shy away from it anymore. It's still a vulnerability, but I don't give it as much power over me anymore. I want certain things more than I want to avoid my vulnerability, so those things outweigh the vulnerability. So yeah, perhaps it's a different kind of vulnerable. >Do you see vulnerability as a bad thing?
No, not at all. Being vulnerable is part of being human. We all have our vulnerabilities. I think it can be bad if we deal with them in maladaptive ways, though.>Or is there a different reason why you find this new state not vulnerable?
I think it's more that I've learned to care about certain things more than I care about whether I'm vulnerable or not. For instance, I value compassion and sympathy more than I value protecting myself from my vulnerabilities. My values have changed. That's what has changed for me, rather than not being vulnerable anymore.
Another thing, though, is that we sometimes do ourselves more harm by avoiding our vulnerabilities than if we were to experience them. Have you heard that saying "we suffer more often in imagination than in reality". I think that's very true.
Sorry for this days-late reply. Thanks for the discussion. Let me know your thoughts. Do you see vulnerability as a bad thing? How do you think a person best overcomes them?