Last night my colleague Dwayne made a really bizarre, and frankly offensive proposal and I was quite taken aback.
When we were talking in the canteen he showed me some holiday snaps of his wife. Quite scantily clad. I've never been interested in black women, but she wasn't too bad considering. He kept saying "I'm a lucky man aren't I?" and winking. I didn't know what to say, of course I didn't want to imply his wife was ugly, and she wasn't, but neither did I want him to think I would be trying to get with her. I just said "Yeah you are mate" and left it at that. Soon after he was telling me how they had been married for a number of years and they wanted to try for a child.
Dwayne told me how much Monique wanted a child but said "I can't be the one to do it", to which I responded "Sorry to here that mate, fertility issues?" and he jumped back "Oh no, it's nothing to do with that", he continued "As a young child, I experienced a hell of a lot of racism growing up, and to tell you the truth, I don't think society has changed that much, people pay lip service to racial equality but their opinions are still the same under the surface".
I didn't know how to respond, was he implying I'm a racist too? Like the others, just reluctantly socialising with a black man to appear progressive? "But I know you're not like them" Dwayne said, "You'll help a brother out, right?". I said "Right", not sure what he meant by that. "You see, the thing is, I can't have my child being as dark skinned as I am, Lewis Hamilton and Barrack Obama are pillars of success, but someone like me? You know what I'm saying?" I was stunned at this. He held up a picture of his wife again and said "So, know what I mean, would you help a brother out?"
Told him "I'd be in touch soon" and haven't spoken since. What am I going to do about this?