Your mistake is looking at the moon instead of looking at the pointing finger, OP.
"""People""" who enjoy tsunderes, femdom, futas, boyish-looking girls (who they criminally call tomboys) and other emasculating choices are all emotionally crippled.
They can't idealize female beauty. They want it, no, they NEED it to be flawed.
Some just grew up with abusive mothers/sisters and think that's what a woman should be like.
Some not only think that, but they also think it's arousing to "put a woman in her place", not understanding there is no negotiating with BPD subhumans. You might appease her mood now, but she'll fuck you over later.
These people will never be capable of love, and their co-dependence is the perfect match for a tsundere.