>>8902811Ok dude. You have to tell her. It isn't just about making your life easier, it is for her too. She sounds really desperate for your friendship, so you may have to give it to her.
Frame it like it is a set of trip rules, make sure your other friend is there to listen too. You tell them that all of you (make sure you don't point anyone out directly) must do your best to be good tourists, and work as hard as you can to not bother the locals. It is very rude to act inappropriately while exploring another culture. So the big things are:
1. Each and every one of us will take a shower with full soap scrub down every night/morning.
2. Every single morning we will all double check each other for deodorant. In Japan any body odor is considered VERY rude
3. We are already very obvious and disruptive by being Americans(or whatever), we need to be respectful and tone down our personal styles. NO GRAPHIC T-SHIRTS, and dressing sensible is considered not only the norm, but respectful.
4. In Japan it is very rude to be loud at all, we must remember to police each other on our volume at all times! Especially indoors and in the evening.
etc etc, just expand upon that idea. Everything she does that is annoying frame it in such a way that GLORIOUS NIPON would never approve of, and therefore no good weeb would do. But if you want this trip to be pleasant for all of you, you can't single her out, for two reasons. For one, if you single her out she will feel bad and that will make the trip suck, for two, if you single someone out they are less likely to take your advice. Despite what 4chan says, being brutally honest with someone does not help them change. It makes them push back, and you do not want her to push back.
It would help if you thought of some of the things YOU do that would not be appropriate and also write them down. Maybe suggest that everyone practice beforehand, that way you all may be less tense when you hang out. That can only help.
