>>5512138yeah, I get you, but people on /d/ can still have specific fetishes and specific turn-offs. I LOVE the gay bottom shit and 'man with tits' and wish all shit were framed like it, though I can still enjoy other stuff. I don't like rapey stuff, but loving relationships through i-look-like-women-but-homosex is a big turn-on, so the super hardcore stuff like scat and piss and AIDS and "I'll make your ass bleed" gets into that darker masochistic side that I don't consider myself a part of.
Anyhow through all this I don't consider myself gay irl, in my sex life outside of porn I have sex with exclusively women and I love it. imo porn and actual sex life are different things; in porn you're only given two senses: sight and sound/written dialogue (also there's wanking too but masturbation can come without porn), meanwhile actual sex is a full-body experience in which all 5 senses are engaged. because it isn't simulated. the simulated sex stimulation porn gives us makes us exaggerate things that overstimulate the sight&sound senses given to us, hence the craving for incredibly vulgar images and increasingly lewd dialogue/captions. Also people who are actually gay and/or trans don't fetishize being gay and/or trans as mush as I and people who like this do. There might be some legit LBGTQ people who like this fetish but I think it's mostly just straight white male lechers. Irl this fantasy ultimately doesn't exist; even though there are transwomen who are attractive to me, and even though I wouldn't rule out bottoming, it wouldn't be out of the same fetishism. If this is irl then it's not jus that I'm "treating" them as women, they're women to me personally and sexually, and I don't get off in the same way. If I were to hook up with someone who was trans it'd mostly just be going with the flow rather than seeking anything.
But porn and porn dialogue is a different thing, and I get off on real sex in different ways irl. That's basically the best I can put it.
