>>7693556>>7693473>experience with subs being anxious a direct answer to your question is, yes, all of them, lol
my puppy was practically vanilla when i first met him, and he warmed up to the notion the more i put infront of him, the more he realized what he wanted, and we organically built up to a TPE relationship, there was no contract, no jump in, we just incorporated more and more things that allowed him to serve and worship me, and in turn it made me more and more affectionate towards him
>Is that a sub thingabsolutely fucking not, it's a human thing, everyone feels it.
Doms, Subs, Vanilla, literally everyone.
i have minor panic attacks sometimes when i buy an outfit for the sole purpose of pleasing my S/O, will i look pretty? will it expose parts of me i hate?
or in more bdsm regards i have a lot of apprehension with trying something new in the bedroom, because even if it's clear that we're both into it, it's really hard to get the feeling right, and i dont want my clubmsiness to ruin the scene, and i live in a near constant state of self critiqueing, making sure that i'm "mistress" enough.
That's one of the reasons why i mentioned what i did in my first post, a lot of people don't understand that everyone struggles with this kind of thing to one degree or another, for you it's just general anxiety and apprehension towards something potentially dangerious, but more importantly, complete unknown factors.
I honestly wish i could do more help in that regard, it's a terrifying but exciting thing to look into, and i think if you find yourself constantly obsessing over it, then its important enough to pursue, because at least for me, i'd rather have spent the 10 some odd years i spent looking for a S/O who can fill my subby side, and failing, than have not spent it at all, i learned a lot about myself.
