>>39587540You know the reason why people say "just be yourself"? There is no answer; there are too many variables at play that make suggestions impossible beyond very simplistic ideas. Sure there are general things you are not supposed to do, some loose general tips on better success that vary wildly on actually working, but a failproof plan is impossible just by the nature of what women consciously want and what they ultimately internally desire that surpasses their conscious wants, but that can only be discovered through time spent with you.
Pretending to be someone you're not with interests you don't have is just playing as a character until you eventually slip up and the mask drops, where everything falls apart. A more fruitful relationship is being comfortable with yourself, finding someone who is comfortable with your sense of self, and you with theirs. But because "being yourself" and "being the best you can be" is not what a lot of women want, it ends up failing more times than it succeeds. That's the conundrum of getting a relationship. The best thing you can do is just to keep trying until you finally find someone that you can appreciate doing nothing with in a quiet room together, and her you.
You will most likely fail a lot, or maybe you'll get lucky and find the one on the first go. Won't know until you try.
Or maybe I'm talking out of my ass and I'm high on exhaustion fumes; I haven't put in any effort to looking for a girlfriend and wasted my High school and college years hoping something would happen out of the blue, while afterwards I either haven't found the interest or am too chickenshit to go to dating sites / apps / areas of gather. Might be the former because of the latter. I don't even know what I realistically want in a woman outside of not being a cunt, healthy, and being around my age.
