And there is nothing intrinsically wrong about any action, only that some are socially (un)accepted. Vegans are trying to make eating meat socially unacceptable. You are blaming someone for reasoning the same way you are. If it hurts your feelings, its bad. If you can't relate, then you don't care. You are literally trying to argue why your emotions have more worth than other peoples emotions, even though objectively worth of something for someone is decided by an individual.
Do you care about the suffering of robots who can't get a gf or sex? Would you advocate that women should give up a bit of their happiness so robots can become happier people? There is so much suffering you probably don't care about, but you choose to care about the one that affects you emotionally.