>>57269827,17>>57269827,18I didn't mean to completely rule out that SOME people reject others based superficial things like relationship status or employment. Such trash certainly exists. But I thought that would be limited to certain demographics, and not be significant in interest based groups and so I misspoke.
I'm sorry you suffered rejection, it must be difficult to talk about, and I thank you for elucidating, yet you fanned my curiosity with statements such as "YOU WILL become rejected even with great social skills and great personality", as that runs contrary to my experiences with online communities I would appreciate if you could give more context to these events, such as your rough age and the age of the people who ostracized you, as well as the specific nature of the groups you tried to join (e.g. what were they "about",m though I'm not sure how non-interest based IRL groups function or whether that is even a meaningful question). I understand if you would rather not say.
To qualify my information: I'm in my early twenties and severely socially isolated in real life right now, though I worked for a couple years previously. I'm a virgin due to mental health issues and I don't think that will change in the foreseeable future. I'm reasonably popular on the internet and always have more people I would like to talk to more than I can possibly interact with. I hadn't experienced what you describe, not even witnessed, but I wouldn't necessarily expect to, considering my preferences. The people I asked were in their mid twenties to early thirties and varied in their social status and romantic success. They said that social rejection based on superficialities peaked in their youth and declined as they aged. But they also said that it becomes generally more difficult to make friends, because people are increasingly busy with work and their own family life. One man in his early thirties said he did experience rejection similar to yours, but even in his case it was not universal and he had always had friends, and in his youth even relationships. They did say that it is more difficult for women to find IRL contacts to casually hang out with.
I find it odd that you empathize so much that groups that are more accepting of losers count losers in their ranks. Are you looking down on them for that, or is that purely descriptive? Perhaps I am fortunate that I am one of these people who have "nerdy" interest, since as you said: These groups contain complete failures IRL alongside well educated and socially successful "normies". I see friendships grow based on personality. Status seems all but irrelevant.
I DO know that groups that are focused on status exist, even online , but to me they seem optional. I never felt the desire to join them and I never needed to in order to not be alone.
