Because it's a broken society where the state apparatus is composed of through and through gangsters, and the military, which is in their control, essentially functions the same way as prison, complete with prison rape. This is an incredibly dysfunctional and unhealthy society which is incredibly good at damaging people, if their family wasn't horribly dysfunctional itself as to make them suffer and become twisted, then the institutionalized abuse so common in their conscripted military service is pretty good at picking up the slack, so to say.
Many, many people who were nice enough, or had the potential to be, get chewed up and spat out by this unfeeling and monstrous machine, and they never become whole again, they embody misery and often become predators themselves, suicide, rape, drug and alcohol abuse, sexually transmitted diseases, this is all rampant. Decent and good people very much exist, some avoid being ground up, some actually manage to pick themselves up in spite of it and come out as comparatively not disastrous (actually exhibiting strong character), but they all are at odds with the overwhelmingly powerful kleptocracy in charge and the widespread societal rot, not seldom do they have to play along in some way, perhaps they simply lack any of the choices they could need, or not playing along endangers them and their families.
Together with a system of government composed of crooked criminals beyond the imaginations of people from western nations, this ensures a stasis which there's no simple way out from.
It's an incredibly sad nation engineered this way by the good intentions of Communist theory and the inevitable corruption that arises from it. The kind of damage done to Russia's demographics, culture, society, economy, etc, it's beyond the pale, combine existing historical weaknesses with the social poison of Communism, and there may not be any proper way out. Not for Russia as a remotely unified country, anyway.