>>76142840You make some solid points, especially about knowing your psychological needs being key to sexual compatibility in a relationship. I totally agree that cheating and disrespecting those boundaries is a real problem that breaks what makes a relationship healthy.
When my wife and I went through our dead bedroom phase after our first kid was born, even just talking about sex felt like I was pushing her, when really I knew something deeper was going on. It took a long time, weeks even months, for us to get to the place where she felt emotionally safe and supported enough to reconnect physically. That kind of emotional work isn’t easy, and I think a lot of people just don’t want to put in the effort, so they give up instead.
I also get what you’re saying about society treating sex like a taboo topic in education, which leaves a lot of young people clueless or confused. Then, outside of that, people get caught up in mixing lust, infatuation, and love in unhealthy ways or treating sex like just a hedonistic thing. It’s no wonder so many end up lost or acting out in ways that hurt themselves or others.
The Hooper example you mentioned really shows how all this plays out when people lack self-awareness about their needs and actions. It’s a messy cycle that’s hard to break.